So You’re Happy, huh?


So it has come to my attention as of late… well no, actually it came to my attention a couple of years ago but lately it keeps coming to mind… that too many of us are looking to other people, places, jobs, or material things to make them happy. While having a nice car, big house, a fine spouse, and well-paying job can certainly bring you happiness and foster good feelings none of those things can or will ever make you happy.

Happiness is defined as a state of well-being and contentment with synonyms such as blessedness, gladness, and joy. Having a nice house or car does not equate to your well-being. That nice car could have a payment so high you can’t afford to live on your own, or you could have the big house with no furniture in it; that job may have you working so many hours or traveling so much that you forgot what your kids look like, or that fine spouse could be cheating. Clearly, none of these situations would be considered good living and therefore, you would not be happy. You may front for the rest of us. And we may be happy for you—yet that is because we do not know the real deal.

There is this catchy little tune out there by Pharrell Williams called “Happy,” from the soundtrack of Despicable Me 2 (one of my few favorite kids’ movies btw) that I think I may hear almost everyday… if not on the radio or in a store, I hear it in my head. It is everywhere and is getting so much play.  And I understand why with this hook:

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Don’t you feel like singing and dancing? If not, that is fine I need you to focus on what I’m about to say anyway. So the second part of the hook is, “Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth…” Happiness is the truth. How many of us feel or think that happiness is the truth? And how much of your happiness is based on truth? Things that make you go hmmm. In the scenarios I mentioned earlier those individuals’ happiness would be just for pretend… and based on others’ perception of their reality. Did you catch that? They would be “happy” only because outsiders, who do not know the truth about their situation, would think they are happy. How sad!  What a shame that people actually get off on looking the part rather than aspiring to be the part. They enjoy looking like they are doing better than you, looking like they have more money than you, looking like they come from a better family, looking like they have a better job, looking like they are smarter, etc. and therefore pretend to be “happier” than you… yet their happiness is not truth.

Truth is that, I once was lost and now I am found. Truth is that everything I have, I should not have. Truth is I should have and easily could have been a statistic. A young, black single mother, who though college educated could not find a job for 18 months… who wore her maternity clothes for over two years because those were the only clothes I could fit and could not afford to buy more. Whose first job out of college was as an administrative assistant making $11 an hour/$444 dollars a week and daycare was $320 a week.

The truth is we never went hungry. The truth is when I was 22 years old my credit score was 520 and I just barely got approved for my own apartment. Yet I became a homeowner at 27 years old- on my own credit, with my own down payment. The truth is that no one would ever know any of these things unless I told them. Truth is that, God did it all. I can’t explain any of it. And even now people may look at me and think I have it all together because I have a house and a brand new car and multiple degrees, etc. (and this is not me bragging, this is truth)… but truth is, I don’t.  Guess what though? I’m happy. And my happiness is not based on any of those things.

I am happy because I have no reason not to be. No matter what may happen to me I am happy because my happiness is based on truth. The truth of the Word of God that says He will never leave me or forsake me {Deuteronomy 31:6}; that He works all things together for my good {Romans 8:28}; that no good thing will He withhold from those that walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11}; and that if I seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness all these things shall be added unto me {Matthew 6:33}.

Clap along if you know what happiness is to you… 

3 thoughts on “So You’re Happy, huh?

  1. Lisa

    Ms. Brandi,

    So well said and the awesome testimony of God’s faithfulness to you is so powerful. Thanks for sharing. It blessed me and certainly will bless others. I am happy for you. The cartoon caption was very effective and made me want to read the post immediately when I saw it (good job).

    The thing about happiness sometimes is that it is based on happenings so when the happenings change, the level of happiness changes as well. Perhaps, that is why the Bible states that the joy of the Lord is your strength. It is difficult for people to embrace that even though things are not how they would want them to be, they can still be happy, because they have a relationship with God, the One and Only, who can turn it around for them in an instant. “What the enemy meant for bad, God will turn it around for our good if we trust Him”.

    Brandi, there are those who have a good job, that isn’t making them work long hours; those who have a good spouse who isn’t cheating; and those who have a nice car and a nice house. But, they are not happy. There is an emptiness there. We need to build our relationship with God. Only He completely fulfills and sustains us.

    About a month ago, a young man (age 27), who attended college with my son, committed suicide. He was engaged to a beautiful classy woman, who is a lawyer. He worked in the entertainment field and had accomplished many many things. It was unbelievably shocking. Many celebrities attended his funeral as well as classmates, family and friends. I did not know the young man and my son knew of him and attended a class or two with him. Yet, it hurt me deeply. He was so young and now he is gone. We often ask what went wrong. We might never know. What I do know is this,

    God loves us. He has our best interest at heart. Keep sharing your testimonies Brandi. God is using you to reach thousands. And, that is the truth.

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    1. Sis. Lisa… you spoke so much truth here. You are right… we can have all the “things” that others would think we should be happy about and have no real happiness or joy because we lack a relationship with the One who gives us that joy… it is very sad and disturbing when someone who looks to have it all together feels the need to end their life… we never know what is really going on in the heart and mind of a person.. that is why it is so important to be mindful of others and to show them the love of God.

      As always thank you for commenting and for your encouragement. The post took on a different tone than I originally intended but nevertheless, it is not about me. If it touches, provokes, and blesses just one person and that is fine with me. 🙂


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